Family and Holidays
One of the things I’m really struggling with in my journey as Ms. Frugalette is how to handle family and holidays. We are right in the middle of Easter and Mother’s Day and we have a tradition of going out to brunch, which means we end eating at mediocre, overpriced buffets. Even when we decide to have a meal at home, there is always too much food and it’s still pretty expensive. In my family, you can’t just get a 12-pound turkey for six of us, it needs to be a 20-pound bird. I’m not exaggerating.
Gifts are similar. We decided a few years ago to just buy gifts for the kids and not adults but I still think everyone spends too much per kid and, trust me, scores are kept. My nephew’s birthday is in December so I end up with a double whammy.
Somehow, excess has come to be associated with love and I don’t know how to just shut it off. I’ve tried to talk to my sister about it but she’s really not interested in toning things down. She’s still trapped in thinking that the excess is something we all deserve and it won’t feel right and the kids will be disappointed if we do it any differently. My mother is completely committed to excess and hasn’t even stopped buying gifts for the adults.
I’ll need to give this a lot of thought between now and the Thanksgiving/Christmas season to see if I can turn things around.